A Man Who Doesn't Cheat

Posted by: Ayomiposi

A man said: My wife was sleeping next to me. And suddenly I got a notification from facebook, some girl requested to add me. So I thought let me see who it is... 

I accepted her friend request and I sent her a message asking: "WHO IS THIS?"

She replied: I AM SO AND SO, I HEARD YOU GOT MARRIED, BUT I STILL MISS YOU.
(It was a friend from the past. She was a beautiful girl.)

I closed the chat to make sure my wife was sleeping.
I looked at her, she was sleeping deeply after her exhausting day from working around the house.
As I stared at her, I started to think -
How does she feel so safe that she can sleep so comfortably in a completely new home.
She is far from home, where she use to spend 24 years surrounded by her family.
When she became angry or sad, her mother was there for her so she could cry on her lap. Her sister or brother cracked jokes and made her laugh. Her father would come home and bring her all the things she liked.
All these thoughts came to my mind, so I picked up the phone and pressed "BLOCK".

I turned to face her and slept next to her. Because I Am A Man. A Man Who Doesn't Cheat On His Wife And Doesn't Break Up A Family.





©the idealist

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Bob Marley Once Said:

"You may not be her first,
her last, or her only.

She loved before,
she may love again.

But if she loves you now,
what else matters?

She's not perfect-you aren't either,
and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh,
cause you to think twice,
and admit to being human and making mistakes,
hold onto her and give her the most you can.

She may not be thinking about you every second of the day,
but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart.

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So don't hurt her,
don't change her,
don't analyze and
don't expect more than she can give.

Smile when she makes you happy,
let her know when she makes you mad,
and miss her when she's not there.

Love with your whole being when you receive love.

Because there are no perfect girls, but there will always be a girl who is perfect for you.."

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Why Snooping Through Your Partner's Stuff Can Wreck A Relationship

The allure of your partner's unlocked phone or laptop can be intoxicating, even if you don't have a particular reason to go poking around. But just because the temptation to snoop is very common, that doesn't mean it's a good idea.
Oftentimes, people snoop because they feel like they need to fill in the blanks about what's going on in their relationship, or like they're being left out of something big and important, says Lisa Brateman, LCSW, a psychotherapist and relationship specialist in New York City. If that's the case, it's usually a sign that there are bigger communication issues going on that need to be addressed, she says.

Or if someone has been cheated on before, they might be prone to paranoid traits like snooping, says Michael Brustein, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in New York City. "They might be hyper-vigilant about other people and have trust issues," he says. But there's not always a concrete reason why people snoop, and some people just do it because their own worries or insecurities about their relationship have developed into actual fears, Brateman says.
If you want to snoop, ask yourself if there's a better way to find out what it is you believe you need to know, Brateman says. (Usually there is.) For example, instead of diving into your partner's Instagram DMs, you could say, The other day you mentioned seeing some of your ex's Instagrams. It made me wonder if you're still in touch with them? "If there's some burning question that you have, the best way to do it is to just have the conversation about it," Brateman says. Although it can be scary, talking to your partner about something that's bothering you is way easier than trying to snoop without getting caught — and it's the healthy thing to do.

Ahead are a few more solid reasons why you shouldn't go through your partner's stuff.

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It's disrespectful.

Nosing through someone's stuff is disrespectful, not only to the person you're seeing, but also to yourself, and to your relationship, Brateman says. Plus, spying can equate to mistrust and insecurity in a relationship, says Francie Stone, PsyD, certified sex therapist. But Brateman says that, in most cases, it actually has more to do with someone feeling entitled than someone feeling distrustful: "Sometimes people are just looking for things that they feel like they should know more about, or they feel like they're entitled to know every single thing you do or say to anyone else," she says. "It creates problems often where there are none, and that actually becomes the problem."

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You're going to find something bad.

"Even if you don't know what you're looking for, you will find something that you will use to fill in the blanks and make into something that very well isn't real either," Dr. Brateman says. Or, you might find ambiguous information, like a conversation between your partner and another person. And if something is vague, then people will project their own fears onto it, Dr. Brustein says: "It could be a form of self-sabotage, and unwittingly, somebody may do that really to push people away due to some intimacy issues."

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Something else is usually wrong.

Snooping is a telltale sign that there are other issues in the relationship that need to be addressed, Brateman says. "It doesn't mean the person they're snooping on is doing anything wrong," she says, but the act of snooping is usually a symptom of greater problems. Think about the larger issues that need to be addressed, Dr. Stone says. "If you want to know something, just ask," she says. "Communication is the key to all relationships — and certainly healthy relationships."

One of the most common reasons for snooping is a fear that your partner is having an affair. But if that's happening, there will usually be other signs of infidelity. "If your partner is cheating, you will know and won't need an email or text message for verification," Dr. Stone says. When you actually find something bad, it's natural to then think, The fact that I snooped isn't nearly as bad as what you did, Brateman says. But comparing the two acts isn't worthwhile, because they're both wrong, she says.

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Getting away with it makes it worse.

Doing something taboo like snooping can provide a rush, that's almost akin to the feeling people get when shoplifting, Brateman says. "There's adrenaline, because you're doing something wrong, something taboo," she says. Say you go looking through your partner's texts, and you're discreet enough to not get caught, but don't find anything of interest. Chances are you're going to do it again, because you know you can get away with it, she says. You might think, I didn't find anything before, but that was four months ago, so I'm just going to do this every now and then. That pattern of rationalizing your behavior can continue indefinitely.

"When you get away with something, you tend to do it again — unless you have a close call, almost get caught, and get scared out of the impulse," Brateman says. Routinely snooping is a bad habit because it chips away at the trust you have in your relationship. At the end of the day, you shouldn't have to check on your partner's phone to feel like you trust their words.

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TRUTH BE TOLD...,

Most marriages where sex is no longer satisfactory it has something to do with men’s ego. Most men are never willing to listen to a suggestion from their wives, and woe onto the woman if she comes up with something new. Questions like:

• where did you learn this?
• What were you talking about?
• Am I not a man enough?
• Have you become a whore? Etc.. will be the order of the moment.

Men: Ladies know their bodies and most already know what drives them crazy. Most women know where you can touch them to make them scream. Most women are much aware of their erotic zones and are willing to guide you if at all you give her an open forum to share with you. Men, be willing to learn from her, ask her, let her guide you through the map of her erotic zone. Do not give her a hard time to learn of her anatomy.

Men: If you are weak by any chance, listen to her suggestion even if it means visiting a sexologist or seeking help. Drop your ego a little for the sake of the marriage or relationship. It is not like the world will come to an end if she teaches you something new.

AND LADIES: Approach this with caution. Maintain your well boundaries. Do not suggest something new when the heat of the moment is near to exploding, most men will not take that lightly. Do not compare her with any other man who has ever given you more than you are getting. Do not bring up the topic when the man is stressed, tired or low for whatever reasons.

As a couple too, listen to each other, learn from each other and help each other to explore each other. There is a lot of joy in cooperating in marital unions.
Sex is meant to be enjoyed, not a task or just to bring babies.



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Men are still having more orgasms than women - New study reveals 3 in 10 women fake their orgasms regularly

According to a new study, a large orgasm gap still exists between men and women as men at 66% are still climaxing more often than women at 43%.

The new study conducted by sex toy company Lelo and released on National Orgasm Day (July 5) has revealed that almost one in 20 women have never orgasmed with a sexual partner.

The result of the survey that involved 4,000 heterosexual female and male participants from across the UK also revealed that many male partners are unaware that women are not climaxing with majority of participants in relationships saying their partner orgasms 60% of the time.

According to the study, this could partially be due to some women not being physically able to climate during sex, rather than lack of trying by their partner.

Additional research by Lelo revealed three in 10 people fake their orgasms on a regular basis, with women more likely to do so, according to the study. And only a third of those surveyed have spoken to their partner about their orgasms, or rather lack of orgasms – with men (73%) more likely to raise the issue, compared to women (56%).

‘The orgasm gap refers to the stats that show that in heterosexual sexual experiences men orgasm more than women,’ explains Kate Moyle, sex and relationships expert at Lelo.

‘We also see that this gap doesn’t exist when women are having sexual experiences with women, which suggests that the gap is gendered.’

According to Kate, factors that increase the orgasm gap include lack of education, cultural differences and the fact that many people focus on intercourse to reach climax meanwhile truth is lots of women require clitoral stimulation to climax.

Explaining why the clitoris is 'so ignored' Kate says;

‘This is reinforced by what we see represented in many forms of sex online and in the media, where women appear to be orgasming from penetrative sex with little or no arousal,’ she says.

‘Commonly we also split up foreplay and sex, which puts the focus on “sex” as the main event, when if we reframe and think of it all as sex where the goal is pleasure then the clitoris, which is the main source of female pleasure with 8000 nerve endings would get more attention.

‘It’s not all about taking the focus off penetration, but ensuring that people are aware then when women are aroused, the clitoris becomes erect like the penis, and this means the internal structure can be stimulated and can create pleasurable sensations through intercourses, but arousal and being turned on is the key.’

‘The side effect of this lack of sex education is few of us feel confident with sexual communication, and being open about what feels good for us, and this is one of the key routes to creating change.’

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Sex survey reveals best pen*s size to make a woman orgasm

A recent survey carried out by Big One Dating showed that women can be more likely to orgasm depending on the size of their male partner's sexual organ.

The company asked 4,761 ladies about the last time they had sex, before noting down how well-endowed their lover is. They then asked if participants climaxed or not, before collating the data to find out which sizes were most likely to induce an orgasm.

The poll found that eight inch penises were the most pleasurable, sparking orgasms in 44% of cases.

Seven and nine inch penises were also deemed to be more "successful" as they triggered climaxes in 38% and 32% of cases respectively.

More than a third of women reported pleasurable romps with manhood’s sized between four inches and six inches. This is the same success rate as men with 11 inch penises, which shows bigger isn’t always better.

The least sexually satisfying penis length was one inch.

Last year, the NHS released information about the average male penis size in the UK.
Researchers at University College London measured the penises of 104 men, according to Daily Star.

They included males of all ages, from teenagers to pensioners.

The average penis length in this group was 5.1in (13cm) when “soft and gently stretched”, the research said. They also noted that some penises are "growers" while others were more immediate "showers".

The NHS website adds: "Regardless of actual size, many men are still unhappy with the size of their manhood.

"A study based on the results of an internet-based survey of more than 50,000 men and women revealed that 45% of men would like a larger penis. The report by Professor Kevan Wylie, a consultant in sexual medicine at the University of Sheffield, concluded that excessive concerns about penis size were higher among men with average-sized penises than men with small ones.

"Professor Wylie's report also found differences between what women and men think. A much higher percentage of women (85%) were satis?ed with their partner's penis size than the percentage of men (55%) who were satis?ed with their own penis size."

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Question Of The Day: During Your Childhood, Which Role Do You Normally Play During The Mommy & Daddy Play?

Can’t just take this memories off my head during those days when we normally walk around will ordinary pant.

Most of the ajebutters might not have the opportunity to partake in the motion then cause only the ajepakos has the opportunity to move around and cause silly things around.

During these days even though you don’t know how to do that stuff like that, at least you will sha hustle it anyhow.

Let’s say something – During Your Childhood, Which Role Do You Normally Play During The Mommy & Daddy Play?

Me: During my childhood I hate been son, so I fight to be the Daddy which I normally play the role of Daddy and it’s awesome to act the Daddy’s role.

Incase you don’t want to write long story, you can indicate by choosing A B C D E.

What about you?

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Eucharia Anunobi Shares Relationship Advice To Aspiring Couples

Popular Nollywood actress, Eucharia Anunobi has spoken about relationships an people aspiring for marriage.

Sharing a story about a couple, she shared that people should not be intimidated by their partners.

The actress also shared that many people are being intimidated by their partners, especially the ones that are more active as she pointed out that it is wrong.

READ ALSO: ‘The Devil Is Your Father-In-law If You Marry An Unbeliever’ – Eucharia Anunobi (Video)

Sharing on Instagram, the actress also wrote in part:

“IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS …….when everyone agrees: one person does all the thinking…”

Watch The Video Here:

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A post shared by Eucharia Anunobi (@euchariaanunobi) on Jun 17, 2020 at 9:25pm PDT

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You Need To Have Sex With Your Wife At Least

Joro Olumofin

Popular Nigerian relationship expert, Joro Olumofin , has adviced men to have sex with their wives at least 12-15 times a week so that they won’t have time to occupy other women.

He added that a lot of women are suffering from sexual malnutrition in their homes and when she requests for it, her man either sees her as a hoe or she is pulverizing him.

He concluded by saying any man who can’t do this shouldn’t be in a relationship.

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LETTER FOR THE SINGLES

DEAR SINGLES,
Sometimes, break up happens just for us to have the best.

When your heart is broken, you need to put yourself together, allowed your heart to heal, prepare your heart to love again and wait patiently for the best.

Don't rush into another relationship

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A MUST READ! Girls Who Sleep With Married Men, This Is For You

I have a former school mate. We met way back in the College.

No doubt, she was an intelligent girl then and was always shinning in her department.

One particular issue she had and which I also detested was her fondness for sleeping with married men/people's husbands. I really didn't know what she would be looking for since her parents provided most of the things she needed in school.

She wasn't from a poor home, neither were her parents super rich but they were very comfortable and could give her what she needed.

I really didn't like advising people personally, especially when they are so much engrossed in an activity.

You could easily be seen as a killjoy or fun-destroyer.

Though, I did couple of times but the attempts were like pouring water in a basket.

Today, she would be in Awka with Engineer Julius, tomorrow, it would be in Asaba with Chief Akpofure. No value for people's matrimonial territory! No retreat, no surrender.

Well, she got married in 2015 and it was all rosy.

Few years into the marriage and it was something else. No day would pass without her posting criptic lines on Facebook about cheating husbands and how ‘God’ would see her through.

I didn’t need a babalawo to tell me what has been going on. Even a dumb primary 3 pupil in a local village school would be able to tell what has been happening.

I later confirmed this from another former schoolmate who worked with her in Lagos. Her past has come back to hunt her.

In as much as I sympathize with her, it’s pertinent to note that some activities are enjoyable until things start going south.

Nemesis doesn’t forget. You can’t sleep with people’s husbands as a spinster and expect yours not to be sugar daddy to some young girls out there.

Wetin dey go around, still dey come around. Wetin happen for fowl house, go still happen for goat house.

If you are a young woman, get focused and leave other women’s husbands alone.

There’s a reason why they call it MARRIAGE. It’s a sacred matrimony whether it’s conducted in a church, mosque, shrine, court, private house or even village square. It’s not a visa to success.

Person wey bring wood wey ants full, nor need to complain when lizards start to visit am for house.
Many young women will tell you that they are being disturbed by married men.

The truth is that such girls are the ones who give married men the cushioned platform to do that. I’m very sure he’s not going to beat you if you don’t give him your contact details.

Finally, as a young man, beware of girls who constantly tell you that they don’t do married men even when such information is not relevant to you.

It’s mostly the other way round; a clear conscience fears no accusation.



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See A Traditional Method To Know If A Girl Is Still A Virgin Or Not (Video)

It’s a traditional to revive a dying horse (or donkey) by having a virgin lady cross over the horse.

The horse is said to immediately rise and feels healthy if the lady that cross over is a virgin.

It is also a way of confirming the virginity of ladies in the community.

Many ladies reading this will not pass this test, that donkey or horse will die more.

Nowadays ladies LOVE FUCK!!

Watch the Video below :

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Five Things To Remember When in Crisis

Five Things To Remember When in Crisis

1. Everything that has a BEGINNING has an END. This too shall come to pass.

2. There is a REASON and a LESSON for every CRISIS. Nothing just happens. So by focusing on the WHY is this happening instead of the WHAT is happening helps you to reap the full benefits of the crisis. Don't miss the lessons.

3. You are not THE ONLY ONE going through this crisis. Don't even think you are the most affected and begin making selfish prayers.

4. List or name two or more similar PAST CRISES that you overcame. ENCOURAGE yourself that you shall overcome this one too. Remind yourself that tough times don't last but tough people do.

5. Last but not least remember God is an EVER PRESENT help in the time of crisis. Keep close to Him and stand on His promises. He is definitely aware about everything going on. So don't you ever lose your confidence on Him.

💥 KeepTheFaith
💥 WeShallOvercome

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#Meme

You are priceless, don't settle for less..you worth more than silver and gold. 

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#DearPussyCat : Every human with a VAGINA needs to see this and READ it real FAST!

Warning| I see the Vagina as the holy of the holies, the secret chamber of nature's goodness, and the reproductive GATE of mankind. This post is not in any way to look down on its richness but to flog some cats who think that their pussy represents their value to a man. Read with an open mind and focus on my perspective.

SWIM WITH ME
Your VALUE to a man isn't tied to your VAGINA. Stop acting like there's something special you did for him by giving him the different versions of your sex operating system.

The last time I checked, when a man finds a woman, he's supposed to find FAVOUR, not pussy.

The world is filled with billions of VAGINAS but very few WOMEN of VALUE.

No girl/lady/woman has the right to boast or flaunt her voluptuous booty or brag about her sexy pussy online or in the clubs.

Do you know why?

Your vagina is a FOLLOW-COME PACKAGE, it's God's gift to you. You didn't contribute anything to have it. But, to become a woman will COST you a thing.

The value you have to give to a man comes from what it has to cost you to become a woman. The quality of your mindset and skillsets. It takes a lot of emotional, mental, spiritual, social, and even financial development to become a woman.

Having a vagina is not proof of womanhood. It's only a reminder that you're female sex.

You are not allowed to enter into a man's life as just a female. You are to grow a WOMAN out of your female sexuality before you can be qualified to have a man in your life.

What an average female has to offer a man is her VAGINA, but a woman offers him VALUE.

READ Also : BEES don't follow DEAD MEAT, FLIES do

Your PUSSY is worthless if the only thing it can achieve is to sap a man's mental and spiritual strength.

To have the mindset that your guy who's NOT married to you, should always give you MONEY because you give him your body is to classify yourself as a pay-for-play girl.

To use sex to manipulate your guy in order to get him to do something for you makes you pathetic and barefaced desperado.

If any man can BUY your body with a recharge card, birthday gift, financial assistance, etc, you are a certified cheap commodity.

Every woman is worth more than naira notes and dollar bills. Every woman is GOLD to be treasured. Don't reduce your worth because of pecuniary pressures or filthy lure.

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BEES don't follow DEAD MEAT, FLIES do

BEES don't follow DEAD MEAT, FLIES do.
Therefore, as a man who knows his worth, do not waste time following women whom EVERY MAN has always found easily and is sure of finding easily.

BEES eat NECTAR which is hidden deep into the flowers; FLIES eat dead meat and ANYTHING ROTTEN which is EXPOSED and thrown anywhere. So as she jumps around, exposing her wasted body claiming how "men can't let her rest," brother, let carcasses rot in peace.

BEES make honey from NECTAR; FLIES make DISEASES from ROTTEN MEAT. So when you hear her say MEN are spoiling me with money and treats, brother go look for a flower with nectar. That one is a dead meat.

BEES bite, FLIES only buzz. If she can't say NO and stand by it, brother, let flies play in their league.
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I’m so sex-starved I feel like giving my father blowjob – Lady laments (video)

Some people who have been morally corrupt already are now trying to use the coronavirus pandemic as an excuse to commit their evil acts.


A young Nigerian lady has revealed how she has been so sex-starved during the coronavirus-occasioned lockdown that the only thought that keeps coming to her mind is to suck her father’s penis while he is asleep.

According to the young lady, she can hardly go a day without sucking a man’s penis, so the lockdown is seriously having a toll on her freedom.

She made a video of herself and posted on Instagram in which she is heard expressing frustration about how her whole life has come to a standstill due to the lockdown.

Watch the video below:

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“Saliva Is Not A Lubricant! Do Not Use It During Sexual Intercourse” – Nigerian Doctor

A Nigerian doctor to his Twitter page to educate people on the cons of using saliva as a lubricant during sexual intercourse.

According to Doctor Victor-Bryan Nwala, a lady can contract STIs through saliva.

He Wrote:

Saliva is not a lubricant!
Saliva is not a lubricant!!
Saliva is not a lubricant!!!
Saliva is not a lubricant!!!!
Do not use it during sexual intercourse.
I hope u understand this.
“The bacteria in saliva are very different than the bacteria in your vagina,” Saliva also contains digestive enzymes that break down food. When you introduce these bacteria and enzymes into your vagina
the result can upset your vaginal microbiome and leave you susceptible to developing a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis.
“Any STI in the throat or mouth can be transmitted to the genitals through saliva,” In other words, if your partner has an active herpes lesion for example, using their spit to make things slick could leave you with genital herpes.
This scenario happens more than you might think—and it’s the most common way genital herpes is contracted. Even if you don’t see a cold sore on or around their mouth, the virus can still be transmissible.
“Herpes can present with blisters or sores, but it can also present asymptomatically,”
Herpes isn’t the only oral STI you could contract. “Gonorrhea, chlamydia, HPV, syphilis, and trichomoniasis can also all be transmitted to the genitals through saliva,” And like herpes, these infections may not have any symptoms.
“Using saliva as lube provides a perfect storm to alter the vaginal or anal ecosystem enough to trigger one of these infections,”

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[A MUST READ] For The Ladies

The man is the head of the family. The woman runs the home. She manages a family.

1. Beauty is good but the heart is the anchor of love. With a beautiful face, but a sharp and venomous tongue plus an ugly heart, no man can trust any woman with his home.

2. Smiles are good. Shape is attractive but if you have a jezebelic eye, oh, your beauty is vanity.

3. Men who are after sex will stop at your beauty. Those after life will dig deep into your attitude and character.

4. A man who loves you will be honest to point out issues in you that don't please him. He will be glad to be corrected by you. A man who is after your body will smile and
vaguely say, "It's nothing much. Don't worry!" yet deep in them they know that, "Beyond this bed, I can take you nowhere!"

5. Genuine and keen men are in most cases viewed as petty by ladies. Men who offer fake smiles and consolation at our glaringly rotten habits are viewed as romantic and loving.

How I wish that as we, as young men and women, gear up for marriage life and relationships that lead to the same, we be ourselves and honest with our God and partners.

Thanks for visiting and do keep in touch for more tips and discussions, please feel free to use the comment box

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#Meme

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